I have several projects that I’ve decided that need to be done and today is the day to do them! Unfortunately, about 4 of the 6 are things I don’t want to do for assorted reasons. I should know I will have more success if I either break these down into smaller pieces, don’t schedule all of them for one day. My current plan is to par most of them into smaller pieces and drop one of the ones that I want to do until tomorrow because circumstances are better to work on some of these today.
Next time you’re stuck on your to do list, think about how much anxiety what you’ve scheduled is causing and how you might be able to par it back!
Sometimes, I wonder if my high school and college students get tired of me asking, did you update your calendar? When did you last check on XYZ?
I know it’s important, and generally keep abreast of my own calendar, as it makes my own life easier. But I also understand why they (and I) don’t always keep it up. In the short term, we remember what is going on and the calendar is only an external structure to help us remember. The challenge comes weeks later when you’re trying to reconstruct the calendar vs. what actually happened.
I’m working on trying to send a billing statement to several families and between travel arrangements on both sides, spring break and my own illness, I’m having a hard time reconciling my calendar back to mid-February–and two versions of the calendar doesn’t help much either. (Yes, student’s even us adults aren’t always current–when we’re “bugging” you, we’re trying to save you from the pain and frustration that we know happen!)
How do you know what is enough? How do you set your own boundaries and judgments? These are the kinds of questions that overthinkiners, myself included ponder, or would benefit from pondering more.
I don’t have an answer for the night, but want to pose the question to the world.
What are your thoughts?
Or, maybe we’d benefit from thinking less and just drawing a boundary and seeing what happens. So far the world hasn’t ended when I’ve been working with this mindset over the last few weeks. I’ll keep you posted. 🙂
Yep, Something happened. Imagine that! The only this is, I don’t know what it was. The part of me that likes to be in charge, just would like to know what happened as the rational and the creative part of me works to compensate for what I haven’t heard.
I had a meeting scheduled with a new client and it’s been radio silence. This individual is a busy professional, and I know this instinctively. I’ve followed up by email and voice, sent paperwork, kept my word and now the overexcitablity part of me wonders what I missed. The rational side goes, no, you did everything right.
As a keenly aware individual, who can also be oblivious, it’s hard to know when I’m compensating the right amount, too much, or not enough! Part of me can roll with the punches and change gears, but then I start to wonder what is too laissez faire. I could go on, but I won’t. 🙂
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So, the original title of my Ignite 21 speech was “The Psychologist Says I’m Sane.” My focus was my own experiences with the intensities that about 20% of the population is wired with. These include psychomotor, sensual, intellectual, imaginational, and emotional. If you’ve ever been called “too much” this might make sense to you!
Debrowski was a Polish psychologist from the 1940s who developed some interesting ideas about the gifted including overexcitibilities and the theory of positive disintegration as an explanation for personal growth.