So, it may not be tennis, but it’s writing… It’s been a long time coming. My website has had a caching error for 18+ months, starting right about the time I got a brain tumor. Now in Spring of 2020, we’re now facing a global pandemic. This is the first time I have attempted to post in a long time.
Stick with it, we’ll make it through! I tried tennis lessons in the summer of 2017. I made it through 2 weeks before I gave up in tears. It was too hard. Six weeks later I was having emergency surgery. I thought I’d try again this summer…now i don’t know if we’ll be allowed to be in groups.
Things cycle. I have a different perspective on trying than I did even two years ago. The time will come to try again. It will happen, just maybe not on the time frame you expect. Just like getting back to writing. I’d kind of given that up and now that I”m redoing the website, I have finally resolved the log-in errors that have plagued me for years. It’s time to write again.
Self-Care Isn’t a One-Time Deal
The strep throat was a harsh reminder that self-care isn’t something you do once and tick off the list.
It’s the constant repetition of many tiny habits, which together soothe you and make sure you’re at your optimum—emotionally, physically, and mentally.
The best way to do this is to implement tiny self-care habits every day. To regularly include in your life a little bit of love and attention for your own body, mind, and soul.
The following ideas are tiny self-care activities you can fit into a short amount of time, usually with little cost.
Pick one from each category, and include them in your life this week.
Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Mind
1. Start a compliments file. Document the great things people say about you to read later.
2. Scratch off a lurker on your to-do list, something that’s been there for ages and you’ll never do.
3. Change up the way you make decisions. Decide something with your heart if you usually use your head. Or if you tend to go with your heart, decide with your head.
4. Go cloud-watching. Lie on your back, relax, and watch the sky.
5. Take another route to work. Mixing up your routine in small ways creates new neural pathways in the brain to keep it healthy.
6. Pay complete attention to something you usually do on autopilot, perhaps brushing your teeth, driving, eating, or performing your morning routine.
7. Goof around for a bit. Schedule in five minutes of “play” (non-directed activity) several times throughout your day.
8. Create a deliberate habit, and routinize something small in your life by doing it in the same way each day—what you wear on Tuesdays, or picking up the dental floss before you brush.
9. Fix a small annoyance at home that’s been nagging you—a button lost, a drawer that’s stuck, a light bulb that’s gone.
10. Punctuate your day with a mini-meditation with one minute of awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations; one minute of focused attention on breathing; and one minute of awareness of the body as a whole.
11. Be selfish. Do one thing today just because it makes you happy.
12. Do a mini-declutter. Recycle three things from your wardrobe that you don’t love or regularly wear.
13. Unplug for an hour. Switch everything to airplane mode and free yourself from the constant bings of social media and email.
14. Get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just talking to a stranger at the bus stop.
15. Edit your social media feeds, and take out any negative people. You can just “mute” them; you don’t have to delete them.
I’ve temporarily disabled my email subscription button until I can figure out how to keep spam subcrptions under control. If your real name is “57a0bac0803d9 57a0bac080427”, I’m sorry! Drop me a line and I’ll add you back in. I’ve gotten 50-100 of these in the last week!
I have several projects that I’ve decided that need to be done and today is the day to do them! Unfortunately, about 4 of the 6 are things I don’t want to do for assorted reasons. I should know I will have more success if I either break these down into smaller pieces, don’t schedule all of them for one day. My current plan is to par most of them into smaller pieces and drop one of the ones that I want to do until tomorrow because circumstances are better to work on some of these today.
Next time you’re stuck on your to do list, think about how much anxiety what you’ve scheduled is causing and how you might be able to par it back!
With several clients lately we’ve been discussing our perceptions time and I remembered and old reference I’d used during my own coach training about coaching acting as an “anchor in time”.
For someone who spends lots of time in her head, the chance to externalize with a partner and readjust to where I am in the flow of time is invaluable.
Several clients have made the same observations when it has come up over the last several weeks and I think it’s time to get it back into the forefront of my examples with lots of clients!
I recently had the chance to complete an exciting course through JST Coaching on coaching teens and college students. This skillet is a refinement of the ADHD coaching skill set that helps students create their own momentum and success with the outside accountability of a partner of their own choosing.
ADHD coaching takes the normal life coaching process and adds a more directed educational and self-discovery component around how executive functioning challenges show up in a student’s life. With this knowledge, the coach and student creates personalized structures to help them develop and bridge skill and memory lapses. These may be around something as common as studying for a test and remembering to do laundry or as personalized as how to manage severe dyslexia and ADHD during your medical residency training. (You might be surprised how many high-achieving individuals deal with different brain wiring!)
If you know a college student who could use additional support, or fit this criteria yourself, don’t hesitate to reach out to me or any other ADHD coach!
Some info about Seattle Area Math Camps via Girls Rock Math
Spring Break: Bead-Dazzling Math
Mid-Winter Break: Girls Count!
Girls Count! We’re all about confidence at Girls Rock Math and this camp is designed to help her know that she counts! Girls Count! is a week chalk-full of our favorite activities, considered to be the “best of the best” by staff and campers alike. Campers will discover and make art with numbers, solve problems together, and discuss the impact of historic female mathematicians. We’ll be creating, designing, playing, and discovering for this awesome week of math fun!
Bead-Dazzling Math Young jewelry designers will delight in this awesome week of math fun! Girls will explore mathematical patterns and concepts while designing jewelry using a variety of beads and other materials. Activities include exploring infinity, pi, computer programming, algebraic concepts and computation practice- all while making beaded jewelry to take home! Like in all Girls Rock Math camps, girls will play math games, do puzzles, sing songs, play outside and have a blast!
Productive Flourshing’s Planners are out! Great for creative people who find traditional planners less useful. Give them a try and then consider ordering the PDFs for all of 2015! There are days I need a hard copy way to think through my day and this is by far my favorite set.
On Monday, December 7, Seattle had it’s darkest day in the last nine years. Literally, we got so little solar radiation that it seemed like dusk most of the day. When there is no light, doing anything is more difficult. (http://cliffmass.blogspot.com/2015/12/the-darkest-seattle-day-in-nine-years.html)
I’ve had my lightbox on for the last 45 minutes and it seems like a horrible thing to have to turn it off to head to an appointment outside the house. Just a thought, if you see us running slow, it might be due to lack of bright light. Now I’ve got a reason I can blame leaving all the lights on all the time. 🙂