Self-Care Isn’t a One-Time Deal
The strep throat was a harsh reminder that self-care isn’t something you do once and tick off the list.
It’s the constant repetition of many tiny habits, which together soothe you and make sure you’re at your optimum—emotionally, physically, and mentally.
The best way to do this is to implement tiny self-care habits every day. To regularly include in your life a little bit of love and attention for your own body, mind, and soul.
The following ideas are tiny self-care activities you can fit into a short amount of time, usually with little cost.
Pick one from each category, and include them in your life this week.
Tiny Self-Care Ideas for the Mind
1. Start a compliments file. Document the great things people say about you to read later.
2. Scratch off a lurker on your to-do list, something that’s been there for ages and you’ll never do.
3. Change up the way you make decisions. Decide something with your heart if you usually use your head. Or if you tend to go with your heart, decide with your head.
4. Go cloud-watching. Lie on your back, relax, and watch the sky.
5. Take another route to work. Mixing up your routine in small ways creates new neural pathways in the brain to keep it healthy.
6. Pay complete attention to something you usually do on autopilot, perhaps brushing your teeth, driving, eating, or performing your morning routine.
7. Goof around for a bit. Schedule in five minutes of “play” (non-directed activity) several times throughout your day.
8. Create a deliberate habit, and routinize something small in your life by doing it in the same way each day—what you wear on Tuesdays, or picking up the dental floss before you brush.
9. Fix a small annoyance at home that’s been nagging you—a button lost, a drawer that’s stuck, a light bulb that’s gone.
10. Punctuate your day with a mini-meditation with one minute of awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations; one minute of focused attention on breathing; and one minute of awareness of the body as a whole.
11. Be selfish. Do one thing today just because it makes you happy.
12. Do a mini-declutter. Recycle three things from your wardrobe that you don’t love or regularly wear.
13. Unplug for an hour. Switch everything to airplane mode and free yourself from the constant bings of social media and email.
14. Get out of your comfort zone, even if it’s just talking to a stranger at the bus stop.
15. Edit your social media feeds, and take out any negative people. You can just “mute” them; you don’t have to delete them.
I’ve temporarily disabled my email subscription button until I can figure out how to keep spam subcrptions under control. If your real name is “57a0bac0803d9 57a0bac080427”, I’m sorry! Drop me a line and I’ll add you back in. I’ve gotten 50-100 of these in the last week!
I have several projects that I’ve decided that need to be done and today is the day to do them! Unfortunately, about 4 of the 6 are things I don’t want to do for assorted reasons. I should know I will have more success if I either break these down into smaller pieces, don’t schedule all of them for one day. My current plan is to par most of them into smaller pieces and drop one of the ones that I want to do until tomorrow because circumstances are better to work on some of these today.
Next time you’re stuck on your to do list, think about how much anxiety what you’ve scheduled is causing and how you might be able to par it back!
Sometimes, I wonder if my high school and college students get tired of me asking, did you update your calendar? When did you last check on XYZ?
I know it’s important, and generally keep abreast of my own calendar, as it makes my own life easier. But I also understand why they (and I) don’t always keep it up. In the short term, we remember what is going on and the calendar is only an external structure to help us remember. The challenge comes weeks later when you’re trying to reconstruct the calendar vs. what actually happened.
I’m working on trying to send a billing statement to several families and between travel arrangements on both sides, spring break and my own illness, I’m having a hard time reconciling my calendar back to mid-February–and two versions of the calendar doesn’t help much either. (Yes, student’s even us adults aren’t always current–when we’re “bugging” you, we’re trying to save you from the pain and frustration that we know happen!)
How do you know what is enough? How do you set your own boundaries and judgments? These are the kinds of questions that overthinkiners, myself included ponder, or would benefit from pondering more.
I don’t have an answer for the night, but want to pose the question to the world.
What are your thoughts?
Or, maybe we’d benefit from thinking less and just drawing a boundary and seeing what happens. So far the world hasn’t ended when I’ve been working with this mindset over the last few weeks. I’ll keep you posted. 🙂
With several clients lately we’ve been discussing our perceptions time and I remembered and old reference I’d used during my own coach training about coaching acting as an “anchor in time”.
For someone who spends lots of time in her head, the chance to externalize with a partner and readjust to where I am in the flow of time is invaluable.
Several clients have made the same observations when it has come up over the last several weeks and I think it’s time to get it back into the forefront of my examples with lots of clients!
I recently had the chance to complete an exciting course through JST Coaching on coaching teens and college students. This skillet is a refinement of the ADHD coaching skill set that helps students create their own momentum and success with the outside accountability of a partner of their own choosing.
ADHD coaching takes the normal life coaching process and adds a more directed educational and self-discovery component around how executive functioning challenges show up in a student’s life. With this knowledge, the coach and student creates personalized structures to help them develop and bridge skill and memory lapses. These may be around something as common as studying for a test and remembering to do laundry or as personalized as how to manage severe dyslexia and ADHD during your medical residency training. (You might be surprised how many high-achieving individuals deal with different brain wiring!)
If you know a college student who could use additional support, or fit this criteria yourself, don’t hesitate to reach out to me or any other ADHD coach!
Some info about Seattle Area Math Camps via Girls Rock Math
Spring Break: Bead-Dazzling Math
Mid-Winter Break: Girls Count!
Girls Count! We’re all about confidence at Girls Rock Math and this camp is designed to help her know that she counts! Girls Count! is a week chalk-full of our favorite activities, considered to be the “best of the best” by staff and campers alike. Campers will discover and make art with numbers, solve problems together, and discuss the impact of historic female mathematicians. We’ll be creating, designing, playing, and discovering for this awesome week of math fun!
Bead-Dazzling Math Young jewelry designers will delight in this awesome week of math fun! Girls will explore mathematical patterns and concepts while designing jewelry using a variety of beads and other materials. Activities include exploring infinity, pi, computer programming, algebraic concepts and computation practice- all while making beaded jewelry to take home! Like in all Girls Rock Math camps, girls will play math games, do puzzles, sing songs, play outside and have a blast!
Productive Flourshing’s Planners are out! Great for creative people who find traditional planners less useful. Give them a try and then consider ordering the PDFs for all of 2015! There are days I need a hard copy way to think through my day and this is by far my favorite set.